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Take your seat at the table

by Dupe Burgess
Jun 21, 2026
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Why your perspective is more valuable than you think

Read time: 5 minutes

I remember the first time I walked into a leadership meeting as an associate at a top consulting firm.

Everyone in that room was ultra confident, quick thinking, and seemed so comfortable; so certain they belonged there.

I, on the other hand, felt unsure of myself, and hesitant to speak up.

Having just left a career in medicine — a safe and comfortable environment — I was now in (very) unfamiliar territory.

I waited for someone to give me the green light to contribute, thinking I needed permission to speak.

But over time, I learned something critical: no one is going to hand you a seat at the table. You already have it—you just need to claim it.

Waiting for external validation is a trap many of us know well, whether it’s at work, in meetings, or in our personal lives.

We hesitate because of:

  • Self-doubt
  • Worrying we’re not ready
  • Feeling like the “only one” in the room
  • Believing someone else’s opinion trumps our own

The truth is, your experience, perspective, and insights hold so much value. Here’s how to start taking up space, confidently and authentically.

 

1. Advocate for yourself

The most important lesson I’ve learned is this: no one can speak to your value better than you can. Whether it’s contributing an idea in a meeting, pitching a new project, or asking for a role you want, you need to actively claim your place.

Action: This week, identify one situation where you’ve hesitated to speak up. Write down your point or idea, and then share it—don’t wait for someone else to invite you to do so.

 

2. Master your domain

Confidence comes from competence. When you know your subject inside out, it’s so much easier to speak with authority, even in situations where you feel out of place. Becoming the “go-to” in your area isn’t immediate; it’s the result of constant learning, updating, practicing.

Action: Choose one area in your field to deepen your expertise. Attend webinars, read widely, or connect with a mentor. Make deliberate progress so that your knowledge speaks for itself.

 

3. Make yourself visible

You can’t be recognised for what you do if you stay hidden away. Over the past two years, I’ve learned that visibility isn’t boasting or showing off — it’s letting people see how you think, what you stand for, and the value you bring. Sharing insights, contributing to discussions, or posting your thoughts publicly are all ways to step into the spotlight without any ego.

Action: This week, post some insights or lessons learned on LinkedIn or share it in a team meeting. Visibility compounds over time, and small actions create new opportunities.

 

4. Build relationships and allies

Taking your seat isn’t just about showing up; it’s about connecting. Building relationships with colleagues, mentors, and peers creates a network that supports and grows your presence. Often, opportunities appear because someone sees your potential—and that rarely happens in isolation.

A question for you: Who in your network could amplify your voice this week, and how might you engage with them? Identify a couple of people to reach out to; share ideas, ask questions, or offer support.

 

The takeaway

Your seat at the table isn’t something to wait for, it’s something you claim. You bring value simply by showing up, sharing your perspective, and trusting your expertise.

Every time you advocate for yourself, deepen your knowledge, make yourself visible, or build relationships, you reinforce that you belong.

There’s room for your voice; the question isn’t if you’re ready—it’s whether you’ll take the step to show up.

Speak soon,

Dupé

 


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